Kara: Hello everyone welcome to you’re too pretty for a lot of things podcast today’s topic is going to be about what it means to be yourself. First thing that I want to ask is do you know who you are and just think about that for a moment. Do you know who you are to through and through if you were to go out with your friends and you know that you are not someone that smokes cigarettes but all of your friends said you know let’s do it.
Kara: Come on try it try it try it what you would you do? Would you know in your heart of hearts that’s not who you are and would you do it? Are you a leader or are you a follower? In a world with so many high expectations on us it’s honestly hard to remain true to yourself it’s a constant struggle every single day. We live in a world that is so judgmental of everything that we do from what we wear, to how we look to, our bodies. I mean that’s just everyone in general women and men you can’t even breathe the wrong way without someone having something to say about it.
Kara: I mean how could we possibly remain true to ourselves with all of these judgments coming our way.
Kara: Being yourself means that you don’t fall into things that go against your morals and your values what you stand for and what you believe in. Means you stick firm on those things and you never change it up.
Kara: A Lot Of times you know it is hard to understand this concept because we are trying to impress people, we want to be liked we want people to like us, we want to be accepted we want validation and you know honestly what makes you, you is the fact that no one else can be like you.
Kara: Because they’re not you there’s certain qualities and attributes that you have that makes you unique in your own way and that make people drawn to you, make people like you, that make people want to be friends with you, you know- what attracts people to you and so if you’re not being your true authentic self people will see that and pick up on it.
Kara: But you knowing who you are puts you in a position to make choices that complement your preferences. Be you always never try to be like anyone else because you can’t you, it’s impossible you can try but you’re never going to measure up to it because you’re you and they’re them you know, and then what’s the point why even do that to yourself?
Kara: You want to be your own self, you want to be different from everyone. If people say that you are weird or ugly or that they don’t like the way you dress, so what they don’t you. know agree with the certain you know certain hobbies that you you are interested in who cares, you know. I think that we tend to want to be accepted, you know we want people to see us and accept us. At the end of day if you’re not being true to yourself you’re lying to yourself. You may be fooling people outside who don’t know you but you know that you’re putting up a front and a façade. you know that you aren’t being authentic to yourself its going to hurt you more than anything.
Kara: I mean why would you want to be like anyone else, you know. If you were like everyone else you would literally be a clone and then nothing would make you unique. Nothing would make you, you, you would be just like everyone else and then you’re just a clone at that point.
Kara: Then why bother I mean it’s honestly so exhausting to try and fit into this box of what society wants or what you know society likes forget what people out there in the world say, forget what their judgments are or what they’re hater is towards you forget it just be you because of the end of the day whether you or not you’re going to be judged. whether you are you or not guess what people are going to talk crap about you people are going to gossip about you people are going to have something negative to say about you or judgment to say about you. Instead of trying to please other people please yourself at the end of the day you have to nurish you, you have to be 100 % content with who you are and just be free in that. Live in a world that you’re supposed to be free freedom of expression you know freedom of you know speech freedom to do whatever you want so that includes freedom to be whoever you want. You can do anything and you can be anything you just have to stop listening to what other people are saying or other peoples views.
Kara: What someone says about you is not the truth. You know you better than anyone else. no one else can tell you who you are or what you are at the end of the day you’re the only person that’s going to be able to say what and who you are so in knowing that Don’t worry or fret about things that people say or try to change. people could say that you’re weird I don’t know what that means but people could say it or say that you’re ugly people could say that you are stupid, you know people can and will say whatever about you in efforts to try and tear you down and make you feel low but at the end of the day if you know exactly who the heck you are.
Kara: You don’t have to listen to that you’re just gonna hear that and ignore it and continue on being you. if they say weird keep being weird because guess what that makes you, you if they say you’re ugly I mean if you don’t think you’re ugly then you’re not ugly doesn’t matter what someone says what someone says about you is not fact only what you say about you is fact so if you let those words you know create meaning in your life then you’re letting them win.
Kara: All these word all these things are words and words only have the meaning that you put behind them so you start to believe what they say then, you know you might be those things but even if you were again those specific things make you you saw whether or not they see it as a negative it’s a positive in your book because those qualities have drawn people to you those qualities of attractive people to you.
Kara: You wouldn’t be you without them don’t change what makes you you to satisfy other people because at the end of the day I can guarantee you if you change those few things that people talk negatively about guess what next week there’s gonna be three more things that they have to say or another group of people are going to be talking about the things that you changed and how they don’t like it so the other day you’re not gonna satisfy everyone you’re not gonna please everyone and don’t even try it’s exhausting but honestly if we literally Try to please and satisfy everyone I mean we would never will never be ourselves and I just don’t have time for that I don’t, an so I’ve come to the come to the understanding that if you don’t like me and you have things to say about me negative or positive that’s fine but I’m gonna keep doing me regardless because at the end of the day I know who I am. no one ‘s gonna change it no one ‘s going to know I except what I am and I’m proud about it you have to be proud about it being who you are and be happy be free be proud don’t know you know him.
Kara: Don’t bring yourself down to a small size limit yourself because of another thing you’ll never enjoy yourself you never enjoy your life and you know we only have this one life and we need to live it to the force be ourselves and be happy moral of this podcast today is to be yourself through and through no matter what never change on your morals or values for anyone be you because you make you unique and there’s only one of you.
Kara: So just be yourself and the right people will come your way the right people will like you right people wanna be your friends and those are the people that you want to keep around you know not the people that tell you need to change because fuck them thank you for listening.
